I used to be of the opinion that titty fucking was “not real.” I’d had it attempted on me in my less-experienced years as something my partners wanted to try because they saw it in porn, only for us to quickly give up. As the idea of putting a dick between a set of boobs should suggest, it was supposed to be fun, but it wasn’t pleasurable for either party. I’m reasonably endowed, too, and yet, nothing. The problem, of course, was that I was missing something most other failed sex acts are missing as well: lube. If you want to know how to properly titty fuck, you’ve gotta start with lube. And, of course, the desire and commitment to see it through.
With the proper slippage, you can make titty fucking happen with any chest size. So long as you can push two bits of flesh together to form a crevice, it can be done. This is obviously easier with bigger boobs, but I’d argue you don’t even need titties at all. People with flat chests combined with little body fat or significant pectoral muscles might struggle to make it work, but otherwise, significant breast tissue and/or synthetic breast material isn’t really required. You just have to want it!
“Titty fucking isn’t my favorite thing, but it can be fun,” says Matt, a guy from Twitter. “Big, small, average… doesn’t matter that much, but doing it with something slippery like nuru [massage gel] makes it much better.”
“I’ve made ‘titty fucking’ work quite well, even with my current B-cup girlfriend,” another Twitter guy, Jack, tells me. “Straddling the chest and using lubricant on the boobs in question helps a lot. Even if the dick isn’t ‘enveloped,’ you’re still rubbing up against the sternum, which is what I suspect is doing most of the work anyway.”
While plenty of people agree that breast size doesn’t matter much with titty fucking, there are indeed many others who assert that big boobs are better for it. “I’ve made it work with small boobs,” comedian and OnlyFans creator Cathy Reisenwitz says. “It was fine but kinda awkward. Some men have been into it, but most aren’t with me for boobage.”
Meanwhile, nearly all of the top-performing posts on r/TitFuck feature large breasts (as in, probably DD-cup and above). As my own experience reflects, it’s often something that’s attempted for no other reason than the fact that someone has big boobs, and having them does make the experience a bit easier. “I have DDD boobs, so I have plenty to work with when it comes to titty fucking,” says a woman who goes by Lady Promiscuity. “Most often, I’m on my back, holding my tits together while he slides between them. I like to add lube to make it easier. If he’s big enough, sucking the tip while he thrusts is very popular.”
There are other reasons to give it a try besides boob size, though. “The visual stimulation is great, since it often involves the woman holding her own tits and I’m into seeing women touch themselves,” says Joel, yet another Twitter guy, explains. “And I guess I have kind of a thing for finishing on boobs.”
“I’m a sub so I like the dominance it has with women,” says writer Jayson Buford. For him, lube is again essential and big naturals are preferred, but it’s less about the sensation of the act than it is the experience of the woman using her body to exert control. Such a dynamic is best achieved with the boob-haver kneeling in front of the penis-haver while they’re seated or lying down. Holding her boobs together, she then moves her chest up and down on the penis. Conversely, a position like straddling, as Jack mentioned, can put the control in the hands of the person with the penis.
As for what lubes to use, titty fucking is one of the rare sex acts in which baby oil can be appropriate because its used externally. Other oil-based lubes will also work well. Water-based lubes are just fine, though they may need to be reapplied.
Regardless of what substance you use, your ability to titty fuck to completion will ultimately be dependent on your desire to make it happen. Most of those I spoke to said it works best as part of foreplay or a way to break up intercourse, rather than as the main event. “I think it’s a teenager thing,” Elliot, again another Twitter guy, says. “It doesn’t provide any pleasure to the person receiving it so it gets old quickly for them and for the man as well if you feel like they aren’t enjoying it. It’s a novelty, if you ask me. On the other hand, if you can get blown while doing it, which takes specific body measurements on both parties, then it can be fun.”
However you decide to go about it, one thing to keep in mind is that there needn’t be any pressure to make titty fucking some mind-blowing sex act. Like Elliot said, it’s often just a novelty — something to try and see if it feels good. If it doesn’t, there are several other options on the table. Neither party is a failure if titty fucking just won’t work out. Again, we’ve all got several other fun parts to play around with, too.
Magdalene Taylor
Magdalene Taylor is a staff writer at MEL. She covers internet culture, sex and the online adult industry. She lives in Brooklyn but is from God's Country, Western Massachusetts.
