Orgasms are fun just about anywhere — on a plane, on a train, in the rain, with green eggs and ham… I could go on and on and on. That said, furtively getting off in random places is no simple task, and most people won’t be able to do it easily without the right tools in place — a la the vibrating panty.
The phrase is a bit of a misnomer, because it’s not exactly the panties themselves that vibrate. Typically, when you pick up some “vibrating panties” off a sex shop shelf, what you’re actually getting is a pair of one-size-fits-all underwear that has a pocket inside for a small vibrator, which is included. Often the vibrator can be controlled remotely, so you can tease and titillate your partner (or vice versa) without needing to reach into their underwear.
Why Use Vibrating Panties?
One of the most common uses for this type of vibe is for surreptitious public play. Imagine you’re out having drinks or dinner with your partner and you can take control of the vibrator secretly hidden in their underwear — sounds hot, right? What about at a concert, art museum or theme park? (Obviously this is best saved for moments when you’re not interacting with a waiter, bartender, Disney mascot, etc., since they — presumably — didn’t agree to get involved.) Using a panty vibe in public can also get you all revved up for whatever you plan on doing to each other when you get back home, or it can be a satisfying sex act all on its own.
There are lots of kinky usages for panty vibes, too — you could challenge a submissive-leaning partner not to spill a drop of their drink no matter how high you turn the vibrations up, for example, or you could playfully try to throw them off their game while they give you oral sex.
Many long-distance couples enjoy using panty vibes — in particular, the ones that connect to a smartphone app so you can control a partner’s toy even if it’s hundreds of miles away. Distance can feel so isolating, and it’s nice to be able to feel close even when you’re far apart.
A note on gender: No matter what yours is, or what anatomy you happen to have, there are panty vibes that could work for you. You don’t even have to like wearing panties in order to use them — some can be worn with just about any kind of underwear, as we’ll discuss below.
What to Look For
1) Vibrating Panties or Panty Vibrator?: The two might sound like synonyms, but they’re not quite the same. Again, “vibrating panties” typically means the product comes with a pair of underwear and a small vibrator that can be tucked inside or attached to the gusset. A “panty vibrator,” on the other hand, is just the vibrator part, BYOP — or, Bring Your Own Panties. The latter is a more versatile option, especially since almost all vibrating panties are “one size fits all,” even though one size definitely does not fit all bodies.
2) Vibrator Stability: There are various ways a vibe can be affixed inside your underwear. Some use magnets or clips, some can be tucked inside the gusset or a specialized vibrator pocket inside the panties, some can be tied on and some are just held against your body by the underwear itself (in which case you may want to wear a size smaller than you normally would, to keep it secure). Magnets are usually the safest bet, and tend to work with the widest range of underwear styles — so you’ll know your vibe will stay in place whether you’re wearing a lacy G-string or comfy boxer-briefs. Magnetic vibes also tend to give you the most control in terms of what spot(s) they stimulate, since you can anchor them wherever you want inside your underwear — most are designed for clits but can pleasure other types of anatomy as well, if positioned just right.
3) Controls: Some vibes of this type are controlled with an included remote, some via a smartphone app and some just by pressing buttons on the toy itself. Obviously it isn’t the most subtle thing to have to put your hand down your underwear (or your partner’s underwear) in public to adjust the speed, so remote-control toys are best if you want to use one while out and about. Check reviews to see what users have to say about the connectivity of any given toy — it’s a major bummer when you think you’re driving your partner wild with constantly shifting vibrations but their toy has actually been stuck on one steady mode the whole time (or worse yet, shut off altogether!).
Frankly, almost all vibes in this category have subpar connectivity, because remotely controllable toys are technologically difficult to execute well — so if it’s vital to you that your vibe be responsive and reliable, invest in one of the higher-end options below, like those by Lovense.
4) Settings: Even if you never use vibration patterns on regular vibrators, you may want to pick a panty vibe that has some, because in many cases these toys are less about getting off and more about a fun tease in public. Look for vibes that have at least a few different speeds and patterns to experiment with.
5) Noise Level: Maybe this doesn’t matter to you if you plan on doing all your public play in a loud pub or on city streets, but a noticeably loud vibe can cause issues if you’re trying to tease your sweetie in, say, a quiet fancy restaurant or a bookstore café. Pretty sure that’s not what food critics mean when they say a bar is “buzzworthy.”
Okay, now here are some of the best vibrating panties and panty vibes available…
Best Overall Vibrating Panties: Screaming O My Secret Charged Remote Control Panty Vibe
This cute set comes with a lacy pair of undies, a rechargeable bullet vibrator that slips into a secret pocket in the panties’ gusset and a ring you can wear on your finger that functions as a covert remote for the vibe. Very James Bond (or perhaps Pussy Galore).
The panties have a side-tie, which allows them to work for any waist size up to 60 inches. The included USB-rechargeable vibe has three steady speeds followed by seven patterns, and it’s surprisingly powerful for such a small toy. Reviewers say the remote connectivity isn’t as reliable as they’d hoped, though — if that would bum you out, one of the Lovense options below would be a better pick.
Another Good Pair of Vibrating Panties: OhMiBod BlueMotion NEX|1
The contoured shape of the rechargeable vibe in this set allows it to hit the clit with precision. But because it’s got no fastening mechanism to attach it to the included blue lace thong, it likely won’t work as well for folks with other anatomy. The thong is on the larger side of “one size fits all” spectrum, so it may be too baggy if you’re petite, though you could always just use the vibe in a different pair of underwear.
The toy is operated via OhMiBod’s app for iOS and Android, which has a ton of cool features — you can log and track your orgasms, for example, and you can hand over control of the vibe to a partner who’s near or far, as long as they have internet access. However, the app isn’t as stable or easy to use as those of other companies making similar products, and the vibrations aren’t nearly as powerful as some of the other toys on this list.
Best Panty Vibrator: Lovense Ferri
If a reliable connection is your number-one priority in a panty vibe, this is the one you should get. Lovense, a company known for how often their toys show up in the interactive cam shows of online sex workers, makes the best and most dependable remote-control vibes I’ve ever tried — and as a chronically horny person in a long-distance relationship, I’ve tried a lot.
The Ferri attaches to your underwear via a strong magnet, so you can position it exactly where you want it on your junk, and it’ll work in any snug-fitting style of underwear that’s not crotchless. It’s gently curved for comfort, and small enough to slip into a pocket or purse when you’re not using it. It has three steady speeds and four preset patterns. The well-designed app lets you give up control to a partner, whether they’re in the same room as you or on a different continent. You can also use it to create your own vibration patterns, try other user-uploaded patterns, sync up the vibrations to music from your library or even set the vibe to respond to sound — perfect for a sneaky tryst on the dance floor. Want the finest panty vibe the sex toy industry has to offer? Get the Ferri.
Another Good Panty Vibrator: We-Vibe Moxie
We-Vibe’s take on the panty vibe is very similar to the Lovense Ferri above — it attaches to your underwear with a magnet, fits any non-crotchless snug-fitting undies style and is controlled via an iOS/Android app. It also comes with a remote control you can use in lieu of the app, in case you’d rather not have your phone out while on a date.
The Moxie has 10 pre-set vibration modes, and you can create or download others through the We-Vibe app. It doesn’t have quite as much power as the Ferri, but it is rumblier — meaning that its vibrations feel lower-pitched and seem to resonate deeper into the skin — so it’ll feel better for some users nonetheless. Connectivity through the app isn’t as reliable as Lovense’s, though; try switching to the remote if you’re having issues.
Best Affordable Panty Vibrator: CalExotics Lock-N-Play Remote Panty Teaser
Want to buzz your bits on a budget? CalExotics makes a surprisingly decent panty vibe that currently goes for less than half the price of its more upscale competitors. It attaches to underwear using magnetic clips on the sides, which look sort of like the “wings” on menstrual pads, though hopefully sexier. This makes it tricky to use with boxer-briefs, but most panty styles will work just fine with it.
The vibe has a little protruding nub that helps it hit the right spot, although it also has some ridgey texture that might be uncomfortable for some users without lube. You can use the included remote to scroll through the toy’s 12 vibration settings. It’s hard to find a panty vibe under $100 that does the job well, but this one ticks a lot of boxes.
Best Insertable Panty Vibrator: Lovense Lush 3
This C-shaped style of vibrator sometimes stays in place better than a regular panty vibe, depending on your specific anatomy, because one “arm” slides inside to stimulate the G-spot, while the other sits outside on the clit. (Don’t use these for anal insertion, though — they don’t have a flared base and could get lost inside you, which would definitely ruin your dinner date.)
The Lush 3 is even more powerful than Lovense’s regular panty vibe (above), and has the same great connectivity, multiple vibration settings and robust smartphone app. The design focuses the bulk of its vibrations on the G-spot, though, so if you’re more into clit stimulation, go with the Ferri instead.
Another Good Insertable Panty Vibrator: OhMiBod Esca 2
With a design very similar to the Lush 3, the Esca 2 stimulates your G-spot remotely and stays in place pretty well. The OhMiBod app allows for long-distance or short-distance play, and gives you lots of freedom in terms of vibration patterns. The toy’s motor isn’t as powerful as those in Lovense toys, but at least it’s fairly quiet during use.
The “tail” of the toy lights up progressively brighter as you crank up the vibrations — don’t forget to turn that setting off before you wear it in public, lest you startle someone at the next table with your mysteriously glowing crotch.