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Madeleine Holden

Madeleine Holden is a lawyer and freelance writer based between Berlin and New Zealand. She writes about relationships, sex, gender and whatever the hell else she feels like for MEL.

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Let’s Talk About the ‘Green Flags’ That Actually Make a Dude Worth Dating

Tipping well, loving his sister, knowing and using the word ‘cis,’ asking some damn questions on a date — there are plenty of tiny signs that a relationship isn’t doomed

The Gentleman’s Guide to Transitioning a Friendship Into Romance

The stakes are higher when you want to turn a friend into a lover. Here's how to do it without destroying your relationship

The Problem With ‘Born Gay’

The idea that people are ‘born this way’ has been a rallying cry of the gay rights movement for decades — even though it’s not everyone’s story. What if, in the fight for equality, it actually holds queer people back?