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This Week in Dudes

From fetish kennels to presidential essays on feminism

This week, I took to Twitter to see what these dudes were up to.

They were making lifelong friends:

Following their passion for fashion:

https://twitter.com/jasonnmomoa/status/760906474037977088

And getting their forefathers tattooed across their bodies:

But Lindsey, you’re thinking, those are all famous dudes. What about us, not-famous dudes? Ugh, fine, so what did you guys do this week?

You got tattoos of characters from your favorite video game; you jumped out of an airplane without a parachute (on purpose); you…did whatever people do at a “fetish kennel” in Cleveland.

Okay, guys, you did do a few cool things this week like — wearing hijabs to support your wives, catching all the Pokémon in Pokémon Go and speaking to Glamour about feminism. Thanks, Obama:

And those same stereotypes affected my own consciousness as a young man. Growing up without a dad, I spent a lot of time trying to figure out who I was, how the world perceived me, and what kind of man I wanted to be. It’s easy to absorb all kinds of messages from society about masculinity and come to believe that there’s a right way and a wrong way to be a man. But as I got older, I realized that my ideas about being a tough guy or cool guy just weren’t me. They were a manifestation of my youth and insecurity. Life became a lot easier when I simply started being myself.

Can you believe we’re letting this guy get away? Silly laws.

This week we all learned that our dentists have been lying to us, that Brazil has female sumo wrestling, and — perhaps most importantly — that millennials aren’t having sex. Excuse me?

But the one unifying story line, according to Twenge, is that “Adulthood is being postponed across the board,” as she put it in an email. “People are marrying, having children, and settling into careers later. For GenX, that didn’t change when they started having sex. But for late Millennials and iGen, sex is now joining the later to adulthood party. Sex has caught up to other adult milestones and is being delayed. This is also consistent with data from teens: In data from the CDC, 41% of high school students had sex in 2015, down from 54% in 1991.”

Damn, guys. What have you been doing all week if not sex stuff? Oh, right—that.