Today is the Transgender Day of Remembrance, a yearly assembly of vigils hosted around the world to mourn all of the lives lost to anti-transgender violence, both in the given year and throughout history. Gwendolyn Smith began TDOR in 1998 in memory of Rita Hester, a black trans woman widely known in her Massachusetts LGBT community who had been brutally stabbed to death. Hester’s murder was never solved, but her life hasn’t been forgotten. Neither have those of the other trans people who have been killed simply because they were trans. And so, for the last two decades, people have gathered on November 20 at churches, schools, parks and LGBT centers to commemorate the lives of all the trans and gender-nonconforming people lost.
Typically, the names of the dead are read aloud at these vigils, ensuring none of the slain would be dehumanized as mere statistics in a world where trans people face violence and oppression at staggering rates — particularly trans people of color. As Cecilia Gentili says in the video below, no matter how prevalent this violence is, “This isn’t supposed to happen.”
The disproportionate violence means survivors have to be resilient and their communities strong in order to develop leaders who will continue to fight on behalf of queer people even when that fight feels insurmountable.
One of these leaders is Flawless Sabrina, who died this weekend of natural causes. While her life wasn’t lost to the kind of violence TDOR is intended to highlight, the timing of her passing is fitting. Her life story is one of great achievement despite discrimination. She will be remembered as a gender expression rebel and entrepreneur who employed, mentored and championed queer Americans since the 1960s.
Born Jack Doroshow to a Jewish family in Philadelphia in 1939, the androgynous icon expressed an affinity for women’s clothes as a kid and fully developed the Flawless Sabrina identity by the time she was 19. A decade later, in the late 1960s, Sabrina was a key character in The Queen, a documentary about the National Academy Drag Ball she hosted throughout the latter part of the 20th century, for which Andy Warhol helped her secure funding. The film was released in 1968, a year before the Stonewall Riots that most of us are taught as the start of the American queer resistance movement. (Stonewall, of course, began thanks to the bravery of another trans woman.)
In the decades that followed, Sabrina experienced mainstream success as an artist and political advocate. In the 1970s, she began working as a queer consultant on Hollywood projects (e.g., Midnight Express and Butch Cassidy and the Sundance Kid), employed just as often to make sure things “weren’t gay” as she was to provide information about gay/queer life, if not more. She had a brief cameo in John Waters’ Pink Flamingos and spent much of her career orchestrating drag shows across the country, creating space and community for those forced to exist in the margins and fringes of the dominant culture that we frequently refer to as “traditional” or “normal.” (These adjectives should be replaced with more accurate descriptors, like “bound,” “limited” and “strangulating.”)
Decades later, when Hillary Clinton was Secretary of State, she called on Sabrina to help legislate reforms that ensured trans people could change (meaning, affirm) their gender on their U.S. passports. When Bruce Weber shot a 2013 Barneys campaign featuring trans models, an unprecedented project in the merchandising world, Sabrina was on set. The following year, she gave tarot readings as part of the Whitney Biennial, participating with generations of queer artists who looked up to her and her work. And when Vogue profiled Chelsea Manning in the September last year after her release from jail, the author made note of Sabrina as one of the friends waiting for Manning at one of the oldest gay bars in New York City.
All of these successes took perseverance. She was arrested more than 100 times because it was still illegal for people assigned male at birth to wear women’s clothing for much of her life. In order to become a more involved political activist, she handled her history of felony, but the very existence of these “crimes” shows the kind of weaponized ignorance she had to deal with for simply being herself.
In terms of who that was, she generally resented labels. And while she’s most often talked about as a drag icon, her decades of work for the trans community have inspired some of its best leaders, including the producer Zackary Drucker and journalist Diana Tourjee, who, in collaboration with Sabrina in recent years, founded the Flawless Sabrina Archive to preserve her art and history for future generations. I don’t want to conflate the legacy of drag queens with that of trans women, a misunderstanding that contributes to violence against trans women, but Sabrina was a queer femme who existed in between and everywhere, toggling identities and acting in favor of queers of all types.
Most of all, she inspired us to live radically as who we are no matter what the social or political costs; to affirm ourselves as the true arbitrators of our own morals while existing in a corrupt society with tons of rules; and to support other queers, outsiders and weirdos until our bodies, lifestyles and interests are accepted as just as “normal” as anyone else’s. For trans people, elders like Sabrina embody a type of history that can somehow sublimate the fear of existence into the joy of resistance, and until the rampant violence against trans and gender nonconforming bodies, we need to educate and exalt about as many of these elders, who are often times little known in mainstream discourse, as possible.