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How to Be A Guy: A Column in Transition

“Buttoning the shirts gets easier after a while,” reader Dean Davis promises MEL contributor Jay Edidin who’s chronicling their transition (and the practical challenges that come with it) in our monthly column “How to Be a Guy.” In Jay’s words, the column is “part social deconstruction, part personal cartography. I’ll be exploring the complicated straits of masculinity and identity, from the prosaic to the esoteric — menswear; marriage… and, yes, probably even the bathroom thing — as I learn to navigate gendered spaces from beaches to bedrooms and try to define my manhood on my own terms.”

Read the latest installment, in which Jay writes about why they decided to go public, here.

The Rest of Jay’s How to Be A Guy Columns

First Steps

After coming out as trans in their 30s, our columnist discovers that performing masculinity doesn’t come easy

After Orlando

My transition turned my ‘straight’ marriage queer — and made my husband a target

Swimsuit Edition

Six months after my top surgery, a trip to the beach is less terrifying than I imagined